When it’s freezing outside, even the strongest sex drive can start to hibernate. Dark evenings, cold bedrooms and the temptation to wrap yourself in an oodie can make intimacy feel like a lot of effort. But winter doesn’t have to put your relationship on ice.
To help you boost your libido, keep your connection warm and stay close throughout the colder months, Certified Multi Award Winning Sex & Relationship Coach Gemma Nice, OhMy!’s resident sexpert, shares her expert tips, including exactly why each one works.
1. Wear Warm Socks to Boost Blood Flow (And Your Orgasms)
Warm feet = warm body = better sex.
Gemma says:
“One of the best ways to warm your body before being intimate is to wear warm socks or use a cosy blanket on your feet. When our feet are warm, blood can flow more easily toward the genitals. This means the genitals fill with blood, waking up the nervous system so more nerve endings are activated. That leads to stronger, more intense orgasms. Socks in bed aren’t a turn-off , they’re a turn-on.”
2. Sip Peppermint Tea or Herbal Tea Before Bed
A warming bedtime ritual that doubles as a pleasure booster.
Gemma explains:
“Peppermint tea warms you from the inside, helping your core temperature rise so you stay warmer. It’s also amazing for oral pleasure. Mint lubes usually cool the body down, but peppermint tea warms the mouth, which warms the genitals during oral. A simple, cosy way to enhance pleasure.”
3. Wear Sexy but Warm Fabrics Like Satin or Velvet
Cosy + sexy = the winter lingerie sweet spot.
Gemma recommends:
“Think satin or thicker fabrics like velvet. These naturally warm the skin and still feel sensual. You can even try satin or velvet bed sheets for extra warmth. Lingerie isn’t always designed for winter, so look for pieces that feel luxurious and warm. Go to local sex shops to feel fabrics in person.”
4. Take a Warm Shower or Bath Together
A steamy environment = a steamy connection.
Gemma shares:
“Turning up the temperature in the bathroom not only brings you closer, but steam opens your pores, your sinuses, and boosts blood flow. More blood circulation = better orgasms because blood vessels and nerve endings are activated. Plus, touching, lathering, being steamy together creates so much closeness. Add candles, dim lights, aromatherapy oils or tantric music. You might explore fantasies or just enjoy the intimacy.”
5. Spoon to Warm Up Faster and Boost Connection
Skin-to-skin warmth naturally increases desire.
Gemma explains:
“Spooning warms you quickly because you’re sharing body heat. It’s even warmer under a duvet or first thing in the morning when your core temperature is naturally higher. It’s a great mood booster and a deeply intimate cuddle. Warm hands can wander, massaging the body or genitals and helping to build arousal.”
6. Use the Power of Physical Touch to Reduce Stress and Boost Arousal
Touch regulates the body and enhances pleasure.
Gemma says:
“Physical touch is a huge mood booster. Massaging each other with warm essential oils increases blood flow to the skin and genitals and creates closeness. When you’re calm, your body goes into ‘rest and digest’ mode, allowing blood to circulate properly. Stress pulls blood away from the genitals, so the calmer you are, the more sexually satisfying your time together will be.”
7. Try Spontaneous, Clothes-On Quickies for Fun
A shortcut to heat (literally).
Gemma says:
“During winter it’s hard to get fully naked, so if you want a quickie, stay clothed and only undress the genitals. It adds excitement and urgency, especially if you’re normally fully naked. Quickies are meant to be spontaneous! And once you get going, you’ll warm up anyway.”
8. Keep Your Vitamin D Levels Up to Support Libido and Energy
A healthier body = a hotter sex life.
Gemma notes:
“Winter brings more coughs and colds, so keep your immune system strong with fresh fruit, vegetables and Vitamin D supplements. When your body is healthier, you have more energy and fewer interruptions, which means more time for sexual fun.”
OhMy! Founder Lizzie Lew adds, "Winter doesn’t have to cool things off between you and your partner. With warmth, touch, cosy fabrics, herbal teas and a few playful twists, you can stay close, boost intimacy and keep the spark alive all season long."
